Miracles Happen when you
give as much energy to
your Dreams as you do to
Fear, that nasty little Demon that whispers in our ear that “we can’t do that” or “we aren’t good enough for that”. The Fight or Flight response that our bodies face when we are scared or nervous. Fear can do one of 2 things: motivate & energize us or paralyze and trap us. It’s ok to be afraid, it keeps us safe, but trust me, your entire body will let you know when something isn’t right or isn’t safe. NEVER EVER go against your gut feeling if you suddenly get an overwhelming sense of dread or urge to run away, that will keep you safe. But for the most part we create fear in our minds, we work ourselves up in to an anxiety-ridden state of mind where we can’t focus and we can’t work or live to our full potential. We get a bad migraine that won’t go away for a few days and we get on Google and look for an answer, but Google gives you the worst-case-Scenario: you have a headache… you’re dying, get to emergency! What does that search result do… freaks you out even more and the cycle of fear and anxiety continues.
Irrational fears keep us from achieving our goals and dreams, they keep us locked up afraid to strike out and afraid to fail; fear of being judged, of looking stupid – you’ll never look stupid by trying and taking a leap of faith. We’re so afraid to fail but it’s through our failures that we learn, succeed and grow as people.
So use your fear, because you can be damn sure that if it scares you (not in a “danger” way) then it’s worth doing. or do you want to sit around resting on your laurels, comfortable staying in one place and never moving forward towards your dreams and goals. I’m gonna go out on a limb here and say that, really, nobody wants to stay stagnant.
For example: Personally, I never thought of starting a blog, that would have been a terrifying idea for me 3 years ago, opening myself up to The Internet, the Trolls and the Criticism. I’ve been called “Ugly”, “Stupid”, “Worthless”, and 2 years ago, I’d had enough of trying to be invisible and not do what I enjoyed because of the fear of judgement; I’d been bullied and I figured, “hey, why the hell not start that blog I’ve been thinking about, it might be fun.” I didn’t expect that my blogging would open up new avenues that I’d never thought about exploring before, networking and connecting with other Awesome Women with similar interests and goals. It gives my Husband an opportunity to watch the Hockey in Peace as well (Go Canucks Go!… don’t hate me for that one!).
It seems odd to me now, that the idea of writing about style and lifestyle on the internet would have originally made me nervous, especially since I wanted to be an Actress, I have a Degree in Acting from London and I’m quite comfortable and content to get up on stage in front of a room full of people and belt out a sad solo song from Fiddler on The Roof (I played the Middle Sister Hodel in my College Production of Fiddler) I’m quite at ease standing and reciting Shakespeare in a London Drama School Audition but being MYSELF in front of people, now that was a scary thought. But that fear, it’s just a mind-game, it’s that little voice of telling you that you’re not good enough, people won’t like you. You know what: “bugger off Fear!”As my Best Friend said the first time I saw her outside of work in Whistler and she hit the replay button on Avril Lavigne “Hot”… “I Do What I Want!” Which is what you should do, use those Fears to push you forward and help you grow, because it’s better than staying in a comfortable rut.
Photos taken by Jenna Lynn Photography
Go For Your Goals, otherwise Life can get really dull.