We have to stop worrying about and putting so much energy in to other people’s opinions of us and outer life choices. Full disclosure: I struggle with this concept. My best friend, who is blunt with me at times – which I do need, told me yesterday as I got upset over a flippant remark someone made to me “you really need to let it go, you’re working yourself up over nothing!” These were words that, truthfully, I needed to hear. It got me thinking about all the times that I got upset over or wasted far too much of my energy caring about other people’s insignificant opinions of me or the way I live my life: “I’m too skinny and I don’t eat!” Or “I’m a posh bitch” because of my accent and the way I speak or even how I should be around my Husband and how I should be acting In my bloody marriage! Excuse me but kindly “f**k off and mind your own damn business!” My life is my life and I’ll live it how I see fit! And I’ve had zero complaints from my Husband by the way.
But not just things that have happened or been said to me but worrying about what people MIGHT think of me… people I don’t even know. When I go out and take outfit photos for my blog, I’m never fully relaxed doing it because I’m always worried about people walking past and thinking I’m weird or silently judging me (or vocalizing their judgement). Why?? I don’t know them and their opinion doesn’t matter because I’m not doing anything bad that negatively impacts anyone else. Truth is that they probably have zero opinion of what I’m doing anyway and will forget I existed 5 seconds down the street. But I care anyway and for what? All this does is keep me from being happy and content and living my life to the fullest.
We spend so much of our time caring and worrying about other people’s opinions of us that we never truly allow ourselves to live freely and to our full potential. We don’t want to cause someone else any fuss and we hold ourselves hostage against other people’s expectations for us. But here’s the thing, we only get one life. Just one. And nobody knows when they will die but we all will. If you knew that you were going to die in a week or a month would you care about other people’s opinions of your decisions in that time? Probably not.
Who is in control of your life and the decisions you make? You! When you let the opinions of others affect your decisions and the way you live your life then you’ve handed the control of your life and your happiness over your people who don’t care about your success and probably don’t have your best interests at heart (though they may pretend they do and they’re just giving you tough love.) You’ve just given away your power and your chance to become amazing and successful because those people who have negative opinions of you aren’t going to let you shine, they’re going to keep you down so that they can feel more important or successful than you. They don’t want you to succeed over them. Bullies are nasty to others that are generally leading happier lives than they are abd they are miserable with their lives. They don’t want to see you living the life they feel they are owed and so they resort to the most basic primal instinct of flinging shit at you like apes do, though in this case it’s hurling nasty, negative words at you to bring you down. So why should you care about their opinions of you if you know they don’t care about you?
Do yourself a favour and stop caring about the opinion of others and live the life you were given.
Have fun with this one life you’ve got.