What do you want to do? What do you want to be? It’s not a hard question, really. When we’re children, we want to be astronauts, we want to be Princesses (ok that one isn’t so realistic), we want to be Actresses. I did want to be an Actress actually, It’s what I studied and what my University Degree is in. I think there’s a bit of a stigma attached to goals and dreams; we’re always told from a young age to “Dream Big” or “Follow our Dreams” but when we get to University we’re told that dreams are just that (often) and to live happily and comfortably in today’s Society then we need a “Real Job” certainly, living in Vancouver, wanting to be an Actress isn’t going to get you a home, or even a rental place to live and buy food. But Dreams are important, they’re good. Chasing things with Integrity (10 points if you know where that line came from any OTH fans out there :P) is good. If we didn’t have dreamers out there then we probably wouldn’t have Apple or Microsoft or Academy Award winning movies and Emmy Winning TV shows etc…. But when you get to a certain age, things are measured, perhaps a little too often, by how successful you are (bearing in mind that’s someone else’s idea of Success generally). Do you have a Fortune 500 Company, Do you own a Mercedes or a Condo in Coal Harbour? But we need Dreamers, to think outside the box and create a better life and Society for everyone.
Here are my top tips for Reaching your goals and dreams:
Stop Living In the Past:
It’s important to remember that past failures DO NOT define your future. If you want to be successful in your future, then stop over-analyzing the past, stop re-living it and allowing what happened back the stop you from doing what could be your big break. Learn from your past mistakes and failures and use them to get better at what you’re doing.
If you can’t stop thinking about it, don’t stop working towards it.
How often have you heard this one, or seen it on Pinterest?! It’s re-pinned ad nauseum for good reason. If you want to do something, start a band, work at Vogue, Start a blog then ignore all the noise around you, all the people saying “that’s ridiculous” or “you can’t do that, it’s not a real career”. Go do it. I wonder how many people told Zuckerberg that Facebook was silly or that it would never work. Look at Facebook now, does anyone remember MySpace…no, because Facebook came along and now we all use it. If you’re doing something that you’re not happy in and you are constantly thinking of that Tech start-up that you want to create, then you’re wasting your time. That being said, NEVER think that you are better than the job you currently have! that job is paying you and many people wish they had that job. Be grateful, be smart and work hard.
Don’t wait for others’ to approve your ideas.
You will never get anywhere if you wait for everyone else to be on-board with you goals or vision. Apple, Microsoft, Facebook, Angry Birds! I’m fairly sure that none of the creators of these Global, society, life-changing companies/ tools waited until everyone agreed with their plans before putting their ideas in to actions. Nobody is going to always agree with you but you’re going to have to go do it anyway, how else are you going to learn, fail, create and grow.
Don’t Compare yourself to Others
Here’s another good quote to remember: “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we constantly compare our behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel” – comparing yourself to Zoella or Taylor Swift or whomever, will get you NOWHERE! It’ll make you miserable and insecure. You just need to keep your head down, bock out the chatter around you and focus on your idea. Don’t look at the number of likes or the number of follows or re-tweets etc… those are just numbers and they won’t make you happy or mean that you’ll be a success, hard work and kindness will make you successful Don’t aim to be popular, aim to be successful and respected for your work ethic and kindness.
Don’t expect Overnight Success
Nobody said chasing your dreams would be easy, it’s going to take knocks, bumps, bruises, the occasional melt-down where you give-up, scrap your idea and then pick back up the next morning and push on. These are the things that will set you apart from the crowd. How many TV Musical Talent show winners do you actually remember, how many hit the big time and have genuinely successful careers; I can think of maybe 5. There are not many cases of people being handed success, having the right people backing them and getting them in to the Public’s view. Most people have to work VERY HARD! Your favourite YouTubers and Entrepeneurs ALL had to work hard and create good, content that was useful and would be appealing and helpful to their viewers, they have to put in the time and the hours to make their chosen careers work. And really, do you honestly want to just be a flash-in-the-pan overnight sensation who doesn’t have that staying power? Or do you want to have a lasting career out of your dreams and goals?
Have a Great Tuesday Everyone!