Whether abuse is Direct or Indirect, physical or mental: it is bullying. 1 in 4 Students report being bullied in some form or another and oftentimes nothing is done about it. 40% of workers report being bullied, and with Social Media; cyber bullying is constantly on the rise. The bullying statistics are appalling and yet if anything, bullying is becoming more prevalent.
Reports and studies show that many people who are perceived to be different from their peers are more often at risk from being bullied and it would be easy to say that solutions to bullying were simple to find but it’s more complex than that and requires help from everyone. In a Society that is becoming ever more intolerant and a culture of bullying is becoming more wide-spread, we need to be teaching respect for one another if we want bullying to end; and that involves everyone playing a part in it.
For everyone who has followed my blog for a while then you’ll know that Bullying is a subject that is particularly close to my heart having been bullied since Childhood and in to my recent Adult life. I’ve dealt with School bullies, Friends who bullied me and Work bullies, I’ve dealt with Sexual Harassment in The Work Place and I wouldn’t wish it on anyone. Sometimes It can be hard to talk to an adult or to speak up about what you’re going through for fear that people will simple tell you “it’s no big deal” or “stop being over-sensitive” or even “suck it up, we’ve all been there”. Nobody wants to be seen as a “snitch” but you’re not being one, you have a right to be hurt if someone is bullying you and it’s NEVER NORMAL!
I know that in today’s Twitter/ Instagram world it can be hard to feel like you’re good enough or that you can escape the constant barrage of people telling you that you need to be perfect or you need to look a certain way or like certain things or behave in a certain way because that’s what’s “cool” or “popular” but not everything revolves around Social Media and anyone who bullies you is someone who needs help more than anyone.
Something that makes me happy now is the rise of something I didn’t have access to when I was being bullied in School; YouTube creators. Creators like Lilly Singh “iiSuperwomanii“, Dan Howell & Phil Lester “Dan & Phil”, Louise Pentland and Victoria Magrath “In The Frow” these creators show that just because you were labelled “the weird kid” or you love video games or you struggle with depression or anxiety, it’s ok and you matter. They show that being different is great and it seems to give young people who may not have “fitted in” to the school cliques hope: hope and realization that there are creators out there who went through the same bullying or anxiety or depression that they are going through and these people are successful and doing great in life. I think it’s great that young people have people on YouTube like the above-mentioned creators who they can look to, to feel comfort, to laugh with and to feel assured that they are worth so much. But YouTube creators can’t be the only thing to help anyone with what they’re dealing with. Teachers, Bosses and Everyone else needs to step up and be a voice for those dealing with being bullied.
We need to be reaching out a hand to those we see facing bullying and teaching kindness in the face of cruelty or bullying.
“Carry out a random act of kindness with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day, someone might do the same for you.” – Princess Diana.