We all want to be the best that we can be but often we don’t get there because we’re too busy worrying about other things or other people or too busy bemoaning the things that are around us and making excuses. We are now 24 days from the start of a brand new year and a new chapter, not that you have to use the new year as an excuse for not starting to work on this right now.
Stop Negative Self-Talk:
We all do it, subconsciously, we sabotage our own success by listening to the little voice that says we’re not good enough to do that or we’re not capable of being successful. Shut that negative voice down right now because that voice of doubt is killing your chance at success before you’ve even tried to do whatever it is you want to achieve in Life. Doubt isn’t real, it’s fear and fear is only real if we give it our energy (unless we’re talking creepy Riverdale fear… cuz then it’s probably real!)
Stop Judging Others:
Seriously, how is it ever going to help you to judge someone else for their looks, success, career choice, whatever it is. Even judging them silently in your mind is adding to the negativity that surrounds you and all of it keeps you from being a better person. You have no right to judge another person for their beliefs, looks, career choices, don’t assume you know anything about a person because there is a lot that you don’t and never will know about what they may be going through or dealing with. Stop judging others and focus on your own success and your own happiness.
Stop Trying to Please Everyone:
You’re never going to please everyone and you aren’t meant to. We all do it, we try hard to please certain people; when I was in University I was constantly trying to fit in and be what I thought my peers would like but it didn’t matter what I tried, it never worked so I gave up and stuck to being me. Everyone has an opinion of what they think you should or shouldn’t be doing and if you listen to them all and try to do what everyone else wants or thinks you should you will be miserable and you’ll never find happiness and success. Be you, go through life being kind and generous, educate yourself as much as you can about what it is you have passion for and work on making yourself happy instead of worrying about making everyone else happy; they can make themselves happy.
Stop hanging around negative people:
You know the ones I’m talking about, people who make you feel like crap, those who make subtle digs at you and say their “just joking” and “you’re so sensitive” if you are hurt by their words. People who constantly judge and criticize others and people who are just negative about everything (we are not talking about depression or anxiety sufferers here just people who are moody and toxic). Being around people like this will affect your mood and your motivation, you want to be around people who are supportive and kind because in turn that will inspire you to be more kind and supportive of others too and, Lord knows, Society needs more of this kind of people in it.